I really have had some time to think these past few weeks. To reflect on life and what it all means and where it's all going and it can be scary. I'm going on thirty years old - no big deal. Yet, there were so many things I thought I wanted for myself that I've not yet achieved. But then again, did I really want those things or was it all just what others wanted and I mixed and meshed it all into my plan?
By 27, I said I'd have a home and a family. I would have had an ornate wedding in a garden. I would be an established singer/songwriter who is helping change the world by 30. Now looking back at those predictions, I laugh hysterically. I am engaged to my very best friend and am in no rush to get down the aisle. I would rather run to Vegas with my prince to be wed. I don't want a lavish wedding, I'd rather spend that money on a European vacation than a party. I can't imagine having kids yet, my kitty Dobbie is my most precious baby at the moment. I am not an aspiring singer/songwriter. I sing every chance I get and write lyrics, but could never formulate a real song. Have I tried, oh yes, many times I've sat down and made a rambling attempt and it's just not in me. I'm no musician. I can play a nice tune on the ebony & ivory, but I fear I may never create my own music. I believe that my poetic words of kindness do touch my inner world and that is so satisfying. To see an instant smile is the greatest gift I could ever receive.
The staples of life are so unimportant to me and yes I get judgemental looks because I don't care that my credit is shot, that I don't have a home, that my car won't run, and that I buy my shoes at Payless shoes. Yes, I get my haircut at Supercuts and I love Wally World. Things, material things matter so little to me. They are just that, THINGS. If there were a fire, I would cry at losing my words on paper before I cried over my DVDs and works of art. I am thrilled to keep it modest. Those who know me, know I love to have things around me that make me smile and "simple is sweet" is my perspective.
I call myself "The Simple Girl Inspired," because everything makes me feel. Yes I'm a big cry baby. I watch a happy movie and yet the happy ending makes me cry. I feel so fully and so provocatively. It's not cute to cry all the time... I realize this, but still don't care. There was a time when I'd suppress my feelings because of the way others perceived me. Pardon my french, but screw 'em. This is my life. I'm realizing more and more that I need to take the reigns and not worry so much about what others say or do in reaction to it. For so long I've been scared to be myself and finally I'm aware that I'm pretty powerful, even if being kind and helping out makes me seem selfless. It's actually how I have the power. I have the respect and love because of who I am. It is very rare to find a selfless loving soul these days and I'm happy to be that girl.
I let all my caring clutter up my mind and get me worried. I think about everything and sometimes I get worked up about it and let it control my mind and heart. Even when there's nothing to worry about, I'll hear a song or watch a movie and my mind starts going... like tonight:
- I'm worried about my baby Brother who is far away from me. I know he's doing wonderfully, but he's not in my eyesight and I just want to be there for him in every way I possibly can. He's my biggest source of inspiration. He's been with me through EVERYTHING and means the world to me and makes me want to be something bigger and better. He's achieved so much already at 23 and I couldn't be more proud of him.
- I think about my Mom who's dealing with Rheumatoid Arthritis every day of her life. She's so amazing, publishing a magazine and taking care of my Grandma full time. She's had so many struggles in her life and she's never let ANYTHING knock her down. Her strength is something that I admire and her compassion is amazing. She's always there to help out anyone sick or in need no matter what they may have said or done to her in the past. She lives in the NOW. Such a wonderful woman. I've also never laughed as hard with anyone else.
- I think about my Papi, so dignified and intelligent. I thank the heavens that he and I are okay. We've come to an understanding that we will just go from here. How amazing it is to have him back in my life. He's a really brilliant man. So full of amazing stories and insight and he's been so wonderfully supportive lately and I love him for having my back and not judging me. What a man!
- I think of my Grandma who has had a really rough three or four years. It's not easy when your greatest friends in life are leaving this world and I so feel for her. She is miraculously kind and forgiving of everyone. She remembers everyone's birthdays and the momentous occasions in people's lives and she makes every single family member feel so special. She's so spiritual and when she prays, oh how it helps. What a heart.
- I think about my second Mom Barbie, I know it's not been easy. I've not made it easy on her, that's for sure, but it's all about learning and growing. She's brought light back into my Papi's eyes and made him happy again. I could never thank her enough for that. This past year through this February has been hard on her and she just smiles and says, "I get back up and get going..." She's one tough cookie, but full of heart and love. There is no one more sentimental and I appreciate her love. She is bold love.
- I think about my Aunties who have all been ill within the last couple months. It's scary. Not only are they my angels here on earth, they are my blood. My kin and ties that bind. When someone in your family is sick, it feels like a ripple effect. You feel their pain. Such love and light from these ladies, you know who you are, and to hear you're down for the count - it hurts. So glad you are all on your paths to betterness. Remember to take care of your emotional selves. It's not all about being healthy in a exercise, eating, and sleeping sense. You've also got to keep the stress down and enjoy this life. All the money in the world made by slaving away won't buy you happiness. BALANCE and always know you have a family who loves you and wants to have fun with you!
- My dear sweet man Paul has been my first mate. Through the rocky waters, he never waivers. When I'm sitting here crying for no reason, my goodness is he ever present and reassuring. I know why I said, "Yes, I'll marry you!" - No doubts. When there are a million doubts in my life - he's what I trust. He never judges, always encourages, and always tries to find a solution. He's been the greatest source of acceptance, hope, and love I've ever had in my life. He's so supportive of my dreams and I can't wait to start a family with him, someday!No other friend like him and he's just one of those amazing people. A shy guy so it takes a while to see it, but once you do, it's like WOW! Plus everyone knows I LOVE SHY GUYS!
Religion has never been a part of my life and being that I'm almost 30, it's really hard to wrap my head around any of it. To go to a church seems archaic and my perspective has me so closed minded. Paul has a deep catholic background and such faith. I so admire him and wish I had such peace in the wheel of the world. I just have walls built that won't let faith in. Yes, I believe that there is something spiritually out there because of the wonderful souls that reside in each of us, but I just find it eerie to read a book that was written by man. Hopefully, someday in the future I'll have a window open in my mind and some of God's light will cast a light where shadows have kept me a non-believer. For now, I just have a hard time when it comes to the grand picture. Sometimes, I do find myself saying, "What's the point?" Seems so sad that we all build these wonderful lives, buy homes and cars, make careers that all just get left behind in the end. Sweet Paul tells me, "That's because you need to find something that gives you purpose." And so I sit here writing, which gives me such purpose. I feel an outlet open when my words fall into ears who may benefit or have light bulb moments because of something I said.
I have a head full of wonder, thoughts, feelings, emotion and creativity. I believe that my purpose will come. I just need to remove the cobwebs which have me feeling, not only my feelings, but everyone else's feelings. When you have too many feelings already, how do you expect to function with everyone else's baggage on your shoulders too? And it's not like they put it there. I try and take it off their shoulders and it's just not mine to carry.
I love my life so much, I fear losing it.
I ache for a purpose, but have trouble choosing it.
I want everyone to be happy, full of smiles.
I wish everyone a high road with easy miles.
I feel so much because I care about every little thing.
With all these minutes spent on life pondering... A hundred songs I could sing.